"Chinwe and Sam were course mates and fellowship members in the University.
As a result, they were very close, always doing things together daily. Chinwe misconstrued this as being in a relationship.
Sam, on his own, was enjoying the friendship and was prepared to do
anything for chinwe, who did not hesitate to expose her past and future to sam.
But she never observed that Sam never told her about his own life.
All brothers that desired to marry chinwe thought she was already engaged to Sam.
After schooling, they were both posted to the North for service. As a result, they both exchanged regular visits.
After service, they returned to Lagos and got good employment.
Six months later, Sam sent his wedding invitation card to Chinwe, who was so affected that it landed her in the hospital.
When Sam was queried, he said he never thought of marrying
her as he was already engaged before meeting her. He concluded that he only saw her like his
younger sister and nothing more.
When Chinwe was confronted with the fact that sam never proposed marriage to her, she was dazed.It was then she realised her folly".
This is very common among youths. They assume about relationship most of the time,
thereby setting up themselves for great disappointment.
The danger is, everybody will assume you are engaged while you are hoping the brother is
taking his time and will propose soonest.
1. As a lady, define all your relationships. If a brother is becoming too close without disclosing his intention, ask him what he wants from you.
2. Don't be too close to any brother to the point that people will start to insinuates.
3. Never allow a brother propose with proverbs or idioms to you. Pretend as if you don't know what
he is saying until he comes straight.
For example, if he says, "Let me be the umbrella on your head", tell him, "I am not in the sun and i do
not need an umbrella".
4. Avoid cooking for brothers unnecessarily. Most brothers love food and will do anything to keep
the source of their good food, even if it means pretending they are in love.
5. Do not help a brother by proposing for him.
ANY BROTHER THAT IS NOT BOLD ENOUGH TO PROPOSE TO YOU IS NOT OLD ENOUGH TO BE
YOUR HUSBAND. Brothers should be bold to propose simply, concisely and directly without
proverbs or idioms.
6. Get a direct "YES" or "NO" from a lady; do not assume..
